Let’s talk about true female anatomy. Not the anatomy people discuss on forums where they share the bits of their private lives. Those people usually are not familiar with medicine and just love to fantasize. Some of that advice may have never been real, but they are very confident and believe they know everything about sex.
There are several myths people believe into. And even though they were created to make sexual life brighter, they often cause problems in the bedroom. A man may want a girl to have the best orgasm, and it doesn’t work, she will feel incomplete. Or a woman will want a man to do something awesome and he won’t be able to because it is impossible.
Myth #1. G-spot. (You can read more in my article “The Mystery of G-spot”)
There is a theory that a woman has a spot, stimulating which you can give her a super crazy orgasm. A lot of forums and magazine describe how to find this spot. This spot is said to be in a vagina. But let’s look at the real picture of a woman and try to understand what is going on here.
Usually, men advise to put a finger in a vagina and stimulate the zone (marked as a red spot in the picture). What happens in real life? A man reads an article, wakes up in the morning and thinks ‘yes, now is the time to try what I’ve read’. He washed his finger, hopefully, cut his nails off. He places a finger inside and stimulates something. If you look closer to this spot you will see that this is the other side of a bladder, so this is what men do stimulate most of the time. As a result, a woman wants to pee. But this is sort of uncomfortable to pee right in the middle of sex. So we just contract everything we can to hold it inside, maybe even toes. When everything is contracted a clit may be stimulated indirectly. You are lucky if the G-spot you found is not a bladder but a clit that you stimulate from the inside.
This myth spread all over the world very fast and helped a lot of people earn some money on it. You can read more about it here. The G-spot was allegedly discovered be Ernst Graftenberg. This is a famous doctor who wrote an article about the role of urethra in a female orgasm and actually didn’t say a word about a certain spot you need to stimulate. There are a lot of cultures that have been exploring sex for thousands of years, like the Chinese or the Indians. Yet, Kamasutra doesn’t say a word about this area you need to stimulate. If it were, they would know, it seems.
I can’t deny the fact, that this so-called G-spot area is sensitive, but it is definitely not the incredible orgasm you are expecting.
I recommend taking a closer look into the female anatomy. If a woman is tensed when you stimulate the zone, it doesn’t necessarily mean she is aroused. Maybe, she just wants to pee.
Myth #2. Squirt.
There is so much information online about this squirt orgasm, during which a woman comes with a fountain. But let’s be honest. What can a woman make a fountain with? A man has balls, a storage for sperm. We don’t have anything like that. Some people believe that women have something similar to a male prostate, yet, these are fantasies too. Women have glands of the female urethra (Skene glands), and if those do produce something, then definitely not in the amount this fountain shoots. There is another suggestion that says Bartholin gland works like this, but neither do they produce anything to shoot like that. Another theory that this ejaculation is some juices produced in the cervix. Still, what speed should it go to shoot out from this far inside (look at the picture once again.)
If you do want to have this squirt orgasm, let us see how it really works. If you look at the picture once again, you will see the bladder. During sex, the urethra channel stays open. Especially, if your intimate muscles are weak. If you want her to squirt, you need to make a movement though her bladder (red line in the picture), and you’ll
see a fountain out. Dear men, don’t be surprised if a woman doesn’t feel as happy as you would wish after squirting. Why should she be happy if she knows she just peed herself? Please, don’t torture the people you love.
Unless, you like golden rain. But this is a different story. If you like peeing in sex, that’s your choice. But believing that a woman should produce fountains in a regular orgasm is a sadistic illusion.
If you want to feel what it is like, a woman should relax, intimate muscles not trained, and a man should move through her bladder. Just do it in the bathroom, not to ruin your nice smelling sheets.
Myth #3. Vaginal, clitoral and indefinite location orgasms.
Most of us believe that a woman can have a vaginal, clitoral orgasm, plus an orgasm without definite location, such as ear, rib, knee, foot, finger orgasm, and etc. First of all, we need to define what a female orgasm is. Regular textbooks on sexology describe these three types of an orgasm. But an orgasm is an orgasm. The state of our brain cortex it exactly the same whether it is a vaginal, clitoral or whatever else orgasm. Women describe an orgasm differently. But all agree that it as the peak of pleasure during sex. So let’s define it like that.
Different types of orgasm are still scientific hypotheses. This is why I would suggest taking another look at female anatomy.
A clitoris looks like a little dot, so small as if it is not that important.
This is how a clitoris actually looks. It has a head, a shaft, and legs.
A penis and a clitoris are almost the same. Ours is just daintier, with longer and prettier legs.
Freud said if a woman can’t have an orgasm, she is jealous of a penis. Well, if you spent a couple of years and a lot of money on trying to cure that, you might even succeed.
It is believed that a vagina is a penis turned inside out. Men sometimes think that the deeper they are inside a woman and the harder they hit the better. It is only partially true. A man can reach cervix with his penis, and if a woman is not very aroused this feeling is more painful than pleasant. This is why you need foreplay. Still, the feeling will be a mixture of pain and pleasure.
This is why, dear men, remember that a clitoris is not just a tiny spot you see. It is much bigger: it has a head (you see), a shaft and even legs. You can stimulate all of them instead of concentrating on less sensitive female zones. These are the tips that will help you please your women and be a really great lover. Forget about empty promises and mythological fantasies. Trust me, if you have a contact with your woman and concentrate on the right areas, she will get the orgasm which is beyond all your fantasies.
Love and a lot of orgasms to all of you 🙂